Who Am I?

Highly qualified and motivated professional

A compassion and warm therapist who is here to guide and support you to live a more meaningful, rewarding and contented life.

Guiding you out of distress into contented living.

Pause for Talk, set up in 2016 by Michael O'Rourke, offers a space for you to talk about what's holding you back, or keeping you in pain.

I am an individual and couples’ therapist based in Hastings. I am specifically interested in working with you if you are trying to make sense of early childhood distress, trauma, and rejection. I have many years’ experience of working with trauma and addiction – things which often appear as anxiety and depression – and can help you process your painful feelings. Through a personalized approach, we work collaboratively to develop strategies and techniques that will enable you to thrive in all areas of your life.

Take the first step to a freer and more contented you.

Who I work with:

I work with people who identify as gay, straight, bi, and asexual, and who identify as female, non-binary, male, and trans.

Contact me now to book a consultation and begin your transformative journey with Pause for Talk.

My interest lies in all early childhood experiences of trauma, abuse, violence at home, and controlling or abusive parents or caregivers. My approach is not about blame - it is about helping you to understand the impact of growing up in an environment that was harmful and unloving. My Master’s dissertation explored experiences of childhood sexual abuse and trauma and this research background helps frame how I work.

I am committed to helping you if you are struggling in your current relationship, or if you use sexual outlets such as chatrooms, hook-up sites, or if you pay for sex. The use of alcohol, drugs, porn, gambling, and even overworking, can all mask feelings of inadequacy, and exploring these feelings can bring relief. 

Shame about your past or existing behaviours can often hold you back, so I encourage you to talk about these things in a space where you are free to be open and honest.

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